很多人都在攀比虚荣中终其一生
藏传佛教de幸福学
The Tibetan Buddhist
View on Happiness
The Three "No’s” ：
三个“不要”：
First, do not compare. The more we like to compare with others, the less likely we are to find happiness. Take as an example a person who owns a high-performance luxury car; if he likes to compare, he is sure to find someone in his circle of friends who has a better car. As in the saying “there is always a better man, a higher mountain,” even if the person excels in everything now, there is no guarantee he won’t be surpassed in a year or two. If he chooses to compete again at that time, he will find himself in a very tiresome chase. To compare is not necessary in life, but it is often the cause of great suffering.
第一，不要攀比。越是喜欢攀比的人，越得不到幸福。举个例子，某个人本来有辆性能非常好的名车，但如果他喜欢攀比，则在他的交友圈中，一定会有超过他的人。正所谓“人外有人，天外有天”。就算他暂时独领风骚，但谁也不能保证在一两年以后，没有人会超越他。如果那时不能保持淡定，又开始想办法竞争，这样你追我赶的，该多累啊！攀比不是生活的必需，但很多的痛苦却因攀比而产生。
Second, do not be vain. The more we indulge in vanity, the more likely we are to feel empty and worthless. At the end of the vicious cycle, we can only fill our emptiness with more vanity. This feeling is one of immeasurable suffering. A lot of very wealthy people find that they would rather die than live because they feel empty inside; their wealth cannot be counted on in any way to bring happiness.
第二，不要虚荣。越是喜欢虚荣的人，心灵越是空虚。恶性循环的结果，最终只能以虚荣填补心灵的空虚。其实，心灵空虚是非常巨大的痛苦。很多人非常有钱，却因心灵空虚而生不如死，他的钱根本不能给他带来任何幸福。
Many people think wealth is the answer to happiness. However, after acquiring wealth, they often do not experience the happiness they imagine. In the period from the 1950’s up to the year 2000, income in the West increased threefold, but people’s well-being actually declined. A lot of psychologists, sociologists, and economists have studied this phenomenon over a half century and have concluded: when our annual income is around forty thousand US dollars, money brings a sense of security, which in turn leads to sense of well-being; when annual income exceeds this amount, there is no longer a connection between money and happiness. Thus, having more wealth is no guarantee of happiness.
很多人认为：有钱就会很幸福。但真正发财以后，却常常感觉不到想象中的幸福。比如，西方从50年代到2000年之间，物质收入已经翻了三番，但他们的幸福感非但没有增长，反而持续下降。很多心理学家、社会学家、经济学家研究了半个世纪，最后得出的结论是：年收入在大概四万元左右的时候，金钱能够给人带来一种安全感。在安全感的基础上，也可以产生一种幸福感。跨越了这个界限以后，金钱和幸福是没有任何关系的，所以，这时候再有钱，也不一定会有幸福感。
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