Thus, we have to be strong mentally; we must not let suffering take root in our mind easily.

所以，我们要学得坚强一些，不要让痛苦轻易地就在心里生起。

To conclude, the origin of suffering is primarily our own attachment.

Third Stage: Defeat Suffering

第三个阶段：战胜痛苦

At this stage, to defeat suffering is not to cut through the root of the suffering, which would eliminate any possibility of it arising again. This goal can only be achieved at the end when we attain liberation. For now, we should use meditation practice to turn suffering into the path, to prevent suffering from affecting our practice and life. In this way, we can “defeat suffering.”

The suffering we encounter in real life may be connected with money, relationships, marriage, etc. Without meditation practice, an ordinary person will have difficulty defeating suffering. Most people look outside for the source of their suffering; they also resolve their suffering by changing the condition outside. For instance, if a person is unhappy with another person, he will suffer if he cannot get over this negative emotion. To resolve the problem, he may try to injure and kill the other person. But he has not really defeated suffering this way. Only genuine practitioners can be freed from the pain of suffering and truly defeat it.

现实生活中遇到的痛苦，有可能来自于金钱、感情、婚姻等等，而没有修行的普通人，很难战胜这些痛苦。一般人会在外界中去寻找痛苦的根源，他们解决痛苦的方法，也是改变外境。比如说，一个人对另一个人很不满，若不解决这个心病，就会一直窝在心里，让自己很痛苦。为了解决这个痛苦，他就可能会去打人、杀人，最终实际上并没有战胜痛苦。只有名副其实的修行人，才不会受到痛苦的影响，才能真正地战胜痛苦。